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Ugh always my favorite beautiful lady. On my worst body image days I go through you and your lovely friends instagrams and let your glowing self love inspire me. Stay lovely my dear, hope you're well.

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rosie-lena

Awe, Rosie. <3 Your messages always bring me so much joy. 

Hi. First if all, you are my biggest insparation. Secondly, I have a question and would be thankful if you answer it. I have been on recovery from ED for a couple of mounths now, and lately I just can't help but feel SO fat and ugly. I eat healthy and workout (lately I broke my leg so haven't been working out at the last month). It is SO hard! I feel like my whole face has changed! I do not want to go back to ED but I just feel the worst. How was recovery for you? Can you relate? Thank you.

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Anonymous

Recovery was not fun. But looking back, it was the best and most important thing I’ve ever done in my life. My natural body weight was 60-70 pounds more than my Anorexic self. That was a lot of extra weight to get used to after wearing double zeros. My whole face changed, too. This truly is part of the process. Those thoughts of being bigger or feeling lazier will happen. You have to use the same willpower and determination that you did during your ED and use it toward pushing past these thoughts in the name of choosing freedom. It’s mental work, mental exercises. My body healed faster than my mind. It took me another year or so after my body returned to its natural size that I finally released the psychological aspect. Keep going. It will suck, but keep going. Your body will even out and you will get past this. Life is on the other side. Keep going. Keep going. Keep going. 

I, at times, feel really insecure about the way my breasts and stomach look. Just because they aren't all the way up to my collar bone. You look so beautiful in the black and white nude photos you just posted and I realized after a few seconds that I have the same exact body shape as you do. It's crazy how my first reaction was admiration of your appearance but insecurity in my own. Even though essentially we are the same shape.

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Anonymous

alackofcolorbyheather:

Girlll, my boobs are not as round, perky, & stretchmark-less as a lot of my friends (Ladies, reason #64732856 reason not to gain/lose lots of weight!). My stomach is super feminine. It creates little rolls when I stretch to the side! But I’m strong and healthy and very proud of my body. I now come from a place of empowerment. And I want to share it. Someone on Lily’s Instagram commented that my freedom was her freedom. It was exactly the reason why I posted those photos, which I almost deleted 217 times. Focus on finding that admiration, rather than that insecurity. That’s what I have to do. Everyday. :)

Hi Heather! I've seen you give a lot of advice to your followers, and I'm just wondering, what would you say to someone who having kind of early problems with food? For the last few months I've been getting worse and worse with food, I want to bring myself to eat but it's so hard, I'm scared of it. It's not just that I want to be thin, it's also that I feel more in control when I don't eat. There's just so much I don't like about myself, both inside and out. What would you suggest to get better?

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Anonymous

Unfortunately, this doesn’t sound like early problems. What are you really scared of? Not eating is not a form of control. In fact, it’s the opposite. You are being controlled by another voice: disordered eating. It’s not yourself. Listen to yourself, your body. Give it what you want, listen when you’re done. You are not going to lose control if you do this. And focus your energies on inward progress. Soul search. Dig deep. Feel worthy of becoming the YOU you deserve to know and be. 

I wanna say thank you. I read about your story and I don't think I could connect to anyone more. The compulsion of watching what goes in your mind the happiness that comes from a number is ridiculous and dangerous yet it controls your mind. I truly appreciate your honesty and am so happy my friend shared a post on Facebook that included you in it. You are a beautiful inspiration to woman who not only have EDs but think a number will bring them happiness. So thank you.

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watchmefindme

Thank you for your kind words. <3 We are definitely not alone in our experiences, no matter how isolating it feels. There is no real happiness that comes from seeing a lower number on a scale. It’s fake, futile, fleeting. 

Hi heather! I'm going to coachella but I have no idea what to wear! Could you maybe post some things you would wear if you went? Pleaseee

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Anonymous

I’m so jealous — how’s Coachella?! Trying to respond to this before it’s all over. :P I’d wear some high waisted shorts (maybe with some fun tights), crop tops over comfy bras, and oversized sweaters/kimonos. As a person of extremes, I’d probably either go bare-faced & natural, or have a lot of fun with makeup (bright lip, winged eyeliner). Ooo and maybe an ear-cuff! Who’s your favorite you’ve seen so far?