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Hey heather, how do you feel about model mayhem? Is it something that could lead to decent gigs? Or is it mostly sketchy/wannabe photographers?

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I’d stay far away.

Hi Heather! I sent in my pics to a couple model agencies. I was wondering how long does an agency usually take to get back to you if they are interested and if there is no response when is the appropriate time to send in new pics. Thank you!

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If they’re interested, probably a minute to a month after you send them in. I’d wait a few months before resending. And don’t forget the power of an open call. 

I don't mean to be annoying or nosey, but I struggle with body dysmorphia and so I feel the need to ask questions regarding my image to make sure I am thinking rational...I look at you and I see beauty and the type of feminine, healthy, lean body I want! If it's not too much to ask could you post your measurements and also your thigh measurement? that's the body part I struggle with most...you are so so so amazing.

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Do you now what feeds body dysmorphia and eating disorders? Numbers.

My measurements are not going to be your measurements. And that is a gorgeous thing. <3

My measurements are whatever is the result of being my own personal healthy. It does not include me thinking I need to be the measurements of someone else for them to be deemed okay.  

Hey Heather, I used to be pretty much overweight a year ago, almost obese, but I decided to lose weight and I made it, slowly but surely. I lost around 33 lbs (which I guess are 15 kilos) and even though I'm not as fat as I used to be, I'm still quite chubby and never happy with my body image. Everyone tells me how great I look now, I'm happy when I'm on my own and I do admit the fact that I lost weight, but when Im around my girl friends on nights out I feel ugly and fat. Any advice for me?

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First off, congrats on losing weight the right way — slow and steady.

Usually, this is the story of not being satisfied, despite having just reached a goal. And I would say something like, “Your problems don’t go away once you’re a smaller size, yaddah yaddah.” But what sticks out to me is that you say you’re happy when you’re on your own. I’m guessing it’s when comparing that you feel ugly & fat.

Every woman is different — they have different genetics, different heights, different ways they process calories, different ways they respond to exercise, and sleep, and stress, and everything. Since it’s not a fair contest, it has never made sense for me to compare myself to other woman. The only comparison you should ever make is to your former self. And guess what? You improved your health! You should be proud. Focus on you. Focus on the other million aspects in yourself and in life that do not include looks or weight. 

Hey Heather, first of I just want to say that you are absolutely a stunning person inside and out :). Secondly I just wanted to ask a question. I've been in recovery from anorexia since January this year, maintaining a healthy body weight and despite being ok with my body, I just feel like my face looks wrong. In one of your replies you mentioned something about your face changing during recovery. Did you have a similar experience ( hard to believe since your face is so gorgeous!) ? xx

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Thank you darlin. 8 months in… go girl! Totalllly happened to me, but reallllly evened out over time. Just be patient. Your body is still getting used to you being healthy. Once it realizes it’s no longer in a threatened state, it’ll calm down. So the best thing you can do is to keep showing your body love and care. You’ll feel like you again. Just keep going!

Hi. Were you ever scared to finish high school? And go out to the world all alone? I am terifide! How do you meet new friends? New real true and deep friends? I am shy and insecure.

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For me, High School was the scary place where everyone wanted to be the same and there were cliques… and so much pressure… and too much regime… and not enough sleep. It’s a beautiful world out there and you can do anything you want. You can find people with similar interests. But first you have to explore your own interests! You can go to college. You can be an artist. You can be an engineer. You can be both. Do what excites you, grow, and put time into being the best version of yourself. That’s what attracts people, that’s what attracts “new real true and deep” friends.  

I came across your blog because I was searching the internet for pictures of size 12 girls, feeling bad about my size and comparing my body to theirs. But you are simply amazing and gorgeous. I can now hold my head a little higher when I try on jeans. I will be looking for you in every magazine I read. Thank you for being. 💕

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Thank you! I’ve done just the same. I remember looking at Crystal Renn’s beautiful size 12 body and having my whole world change. When women accept that they are beautiful when they are their natural size, it gives permission for others to do the same. :)

Here’s some size 8-16 ladies who are celebrated for their size & that I still seek inspiration from today: MUSE, JAG, Wilhelmina and some IMG Girls: Marquita, Tara, Ashley, Danielle, Inga, Alessandra, & Julie

you are so beautiful and my inspiration as I recover from EDNOS thank you so much for everything!!

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You’ve got this. Take it down! Thank you. <3

Hi Heather, when I was first on Tumblr you offered me some advice, and now that I'm back on I just wanted to say THANK YOU! <3 I'm 16, so for a long time my insecurity was at it's peak, and it contributed greatest to my depression. Now I'm able to view myself in a better light, and you've definitely helped me get there with the inspiring life you lead. I love you!!!

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Ah, this lights me up!! :D 

It’s not a big deal that you gained weight. Honestly, in the big picture, who cares? Did you live life the way you wanted to? Did you have fun? Did you find people you love? Did you learn lots of interesting things? That’s probably what you’re gonna care about when you’re at your death bed, not about the fact that you “gained weight” when you were 21.

My 18 year old brother, when i was freaking out about my recovery weight gain.  (via thephilyptian)

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